Where to now?

As you can see from the length between posts, I've had a looooog holiday season with regards to blogging. My attention has been on my business and my role within it. It's been a real eye-opener and I love what I see. It's a revelation that has been three years in the coming. Like an asteroid that was once viewed by a telescope, it's now entered the earth's atmosphere and hit me.

So where to now? Well the new me is sounding different and is using different language, is aware of others but as the great Bob Proctor says (I'm paraphrasing here) other people's opinion of you is none of your business. As I grew up the underlying message that was handed down to me was this question "Do you think that no-one else has thought of that?" and "Empty vessels make the most noise". I believed that I was the same as everybody else, my thoughts, actions and words were nothing new. I learned how to be a socail chameleon. I could fit in anywhere by being anyone which was rarely myself. I would have to listen to others' conversation before I spoke so that I knew how to be in that setting. To my mind it worked. I was caught out a couple of times but hey...

That was then. Over the past three years I've had the time freedom and the curriculum to work on myself. It is a most amazing journey and the great thing is that it never ends. It means that I always have something to look forward to. What a great way to live, evolution.

What a feeling.

My daughter is a chuckle monster. She has smiles for everyone and screeches too if you'd like them. She's 8 months old and she love Daddy Bear snuggles before she goes down to sleep.

My son is coming up to two years old. As I work from home, we spend a lot of time together. He has started to get very affectionate and he runs up, grabs my kness and says "Hug, hug". Recently, he just sat on my lap, he was snoozy and didn't say a word but just very gently leaned his cheek in against mine. It was the most amazing feeling.

We are all this age and we are all this loved.

Happy Christmas everyone.

Just One More Spoon...

One of the aspects of my life that I really appreciate is that I started my journey of personal development before we had our kids. And one of the reasons for this is that my kids now benefit from it two. They are 22 months and 7 months. Coupled with that, my sister discovered the Glenn Doman method of teaching my niece from a young age. It open up a world for her from a very young age and her mind, to this day, fires on all cylinders. At age 25 she has done a Masters in Theoretical Physics and is in her second year of studying to become and actuary. This also raised the bar for my sister who taught her higher grade maths, herself having failed lower grade maths for her high school graduation. The forerunner to all this being my grandmother who raised eight, very forward looking children. One of them, of course, my mum. So in this short paragraph alone, we can see how one person can cause effect to generations.

But that's only part of the point of my post. Being a product of the product that is the cornerstone of my business, one of the key things it has taught me is to keep my own promises. Now, this may sound like a very simple notion but I think you'll find it's something that many overlook. They are happy to let things slide because 'it's only' for themselves. I remember the first major promise I kept to myself. It wasn't easy because all my friends were going in that direction and, seeing it coming, I had already promised myself that I wouldn't. IT FELT GREAT. As I became better at keeping promises to myself, the by-product was that I became more resolute and my word truly was my bond. It's a great thing to be able to say 'my word is my bond'. It's even better when people realise this to be true.

An off-shoot of this is that I have a great relationship with my children. They trust me to be direct, truthful and factual. I don't point and say that's a dog, I point and say that's a dog, it's called a doberman pinscher or that's a bird, it's called a blue tit. And when we're eating and I say 'Just one more spoon...' they eat it becuase they know I won't push any more on them.

To acquiesce to your child's desires does neither party any favours. One of the great things about the company I work with is that when all the distributors meet up at the live events, they all being products of the product too, there is resolution and positivity. Stephen Covey in his brilliant book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People, points out that the best relationships we have are with other independent people. Interdependence through independence. As Barbara Streisand correctly point out in her song, people who need people are the luckiest people... I'd add the caveat "Don't make people a priority if they only make you an option".